THIS is why I started this blog in the first place. I wanted to reach out to other parents’, share my struggles, my tribulations and my triumphs with others’ that are walking the same broken road as I am…..I wanted to show other parents’ that we don’t have to let our illnesses define us. That we could define our illness if we had enough tools, strength and hope.
The last few days I’ve had a lot of different situations arise that could potentially shatter the hope of reaching out to others. A lot of these situations have rocked me to my core. Some have been very personal, too personal to share even here on my blog. It’s those, the personal ones that have rocked me the most. These situations are the ones that have shown how a blog like mine can look like a display of my life, open for the world to see. It can seem like I’m advertising my business, my private matters, ect…ect…
At the same time, those very things remind me as to why I am doing this in the first place. It is the stigma, the ignorance of such illnesses that I want to advocate against. Below is a quote from my About Me page……it is the soul reason I started this project in the first place. I think here is a good place to remind not just myself, but my readers’ why I am so willing to put my private business on display for the world to see.
“Those of us that scream the loudest are the ones that get the most attention. Although I understand that dealing with a serious mental health issue and shouting it to the world can be scary and even humiliating, but without it, our advocacy will go un-noticed. We will get no where if we hide behind the rock of shame that society as put in front of us.”
Would a parent’s child be taken away from them because the parent was ill with a debilitating medical illness? The parent receiving treatment for the illness and still needing to rely on family to help them during a difficult time….would they be stomped with stigma about how they are unable to care for their children? How about if the parent got blamed for having such an illness and having their illness used against them as a means to take a child from their custody? Would any of the “medically” illnesses even be considered as grounds for the child’s home being deemed as unsafe or unhealthy? I think not….
That said, I will continue to march forward and push against any resistance anyone would like to put in front of me. I am as good as a Mom as anyone else. I have well periods and unwell periods just like someone who suffers with an illness that is widely accepted within the communities we live. I will not allow anyone to use my illness against me in any shape or form. If you’d like to…..I am up for that war and I promise you, I will not go down without a fight!
I will continue to blog, I will continue to show not just my weaknesses, but my strengths as well. And for anyone who would like to use my blog, my words as a way to punish me….it is you who is showing ignorance and stigma. Nothing has stopped anyone from being stupid, you will not stop me from being strong! I hope every single one of you who think I am the UNHEALTHY one take a long hard look in the mirror…..we all have weaknesses. Fortunately, I have sought help for mine!
Until next time….