It may not be as terrible as what other parent’s have reported, but to us, it’s bad enough. I think each parent goes through their child having an MI in different ways. Some issues are behavioral and can be controlled with therapy and low dose medications. Others are out of control MI’s that even the best of meds can’t control. Gitty falls somewhere between those two lines and I believe the lines are very thin.
Gitty absolutely has her moments of breakdowns and meltdowns that can result in lots of raging on her part. This normally comes with her throwing things. First it was her book bag a few months ago, then it was shoes and then she started to become aggressive with her siblings and eventually with me too. I have yet to see her be aggressive physically with her Dad. She has on occasion been verbally aggressive to him. We both need parenting classes and that’s the first thing I’m putting on my “to do list” for tomorrow.
Tonight Gitty had a break down….Since going on the Risperidone, her appetite is out of control. She’s fine, until she takes her meds and then all she wants to do is eat. We try to encourage healthy foods, but it’s not working out so well. I’m trying to approach her in a way that isn’t going to give her body image issues. She’s inherited enough from me, she doesn’t need my anorexia too.
After dinner tonight, 15 minutes before bedtime, she made herself a plate of candied yams. Now these are her absolute favorite food. During dinner, she had three helpings alone. We ate late, so there was no reason for a snack. When Hubs told her no, it was too close to bedtime, she proceeded to put a piece in her mouth anyway. Hubs warned her, one more bite and you are grounded tomorrow. She threw the plate into the sink, the plate crashing into all the dishes already in there and screamed at her Dad. He added a week to her groundation to which she screamed. ”I don’t care!” Stomping her feet, crossing her arms. This is what she does when she wants to challenge us to more punishments.
I then took over, explaining that although I understood she was having difficulty and she had a disorder that made her moods go wonky on her, she would still have to suffer consequences for her actions. If she doesn’t learn this now, when she becomes an adult, these behaviors will seep through. If she throws a hissy fit like that at work, she’ll lose her job or worse, if she assaults someone she will end up in jail. I calmly explained this to her. She then proceeded to get a class of water and kicked AC in the process. I’m happy he does not engage or retaliate when she gets like this.
She then came and sulked in the kitchen, sitting on the floor, her blanket wrapped around her. I left her be, she needed time, but didn’t want to be alone. I think she was trying to form thoughts in her brain that would come out the proper way. Soon she got up, hugged me and started crying. “I’m sorry! I don’t know how to control this! I don’t want to be like this!” Thank God for therapy! We were to go tomorrow, but her tdoc will not be in so her appointment has been pushed to May 1st, which is disappointing. Gitty really wants to see her tdoc. She likes her and trusts her very much.
Her sleep is still an issue, even with the new routine. I’m considering asking if we can try Tylenol PM with her. I don’t want to give her anything too sedating, not yet.
She’s still hearing voices, she says they are mumbles and I told her I hoped it was because the meds were working and they would soon turn to whispers and then eventually go away. She sees people and objects on a daily basis and they scare her. She still sleeps with all the lights on in the hallway and kitchen.
On a good note….we’ve stopped being hassled by the guidance counselor about a 504 plan. Maybe one should be put in place, but daily phone calls was getting close to harassment. We spoke with the principle and he agrees that right now we need to hold off on that plan and give the meds a chance to work.
Gitty wants to connect with other kids like her, but I worry that may not be a good idea. She’s extremely high functioning for a child with an MI and I fear she will feel as though she doesn’t fit in, just like she doesn’t fit in at school
More to come….